The Secret to Making Good on Your New Year's Resolution!

What resolution or goal can't you achieve when you can develop new, lasting habits as needed? Ironically, this key ability is not taught in school or in most "self-help" courses and it largely remains a mystery - until now.

My name is Babu Paturi. I have been studying the art of developing new habits for the last ten years. I am certified in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) from a prominent institute in Manhattan, NY. NLP is the science Tony Robbins modified and used in his early days for lasting behavioral change. 

I've also completed a comprehensive suite of high-end personal development courses spanning 2 years costing tens of thousands of dollars.

I invite you to read this article with an open mind. Question it and use or develop what works for you.

Forming New Habits

Here are the core conditions for developing a new habit which are rarely talked about.

· Sufficient, lasting discomfort with an area of their life

· A solid decision to develop the new habit and willingness to pay the price

· Consistent habit practice for 30 days or more. Studies show that it takes a minimum of 30 days to develop a new habit.

Most people seek comfort and avoid sustained discomfort/pain. There is nothing inherently wrong with this and it's a natural instinct. The issue is that new habits often require stepping outside the comfort zone. Staying outside of it for 30 days is often too much discomfort and we may abandon the new habit.

Given all of this, can you see why new habit development is a challenge and why only 8% of people succeed with their New Year's Resolution? Can you see why "self-help", which often does not address all of the above in a practical way, often fails at producing last change?

A Bold Solution

You can wait for life's urgent alarm to develop a new habit or you can be proactive and develop the habit on your own terms with this simple and bold approach. The choice is yours.

Put something highly valued at risk of loss if you don't develop the new habit. This creates the discomfort, forces a firm decision and ensures follow through for 30 days to develop the new habit. You quickly become serious, committed and willing to do what it takes. 

Studies show that the fear of loss (what you put at risk) motivates action twice as much as the desire for gain (goal).

Put at risk what you would need to follow through. Don't play it safe. Play to push yourself.

An Example

Let's say my New Year's Resolution is to lose 20 pounds. I first ask myself what would I need to put at risk so that I follow through with the new habit for a minimum of 30 days.

I choose to put $300 at risk with a friend. If this is a really big goal, I may also put something additional at risk. For example, I may give my word to another friend vowing to develop this new habit. Loss of reputation is a big motivator and is the foundation of credit reporting systems.

The money is returned to me and my reputation is increased with my friends after practicing the new habit daily for the promised 30 consecutive days.

The money is not returned to me if I don't follow through and my reputation suffers. This makes me evaluate my word much more carefully in the future and that's a good thing.

Unstoppable Confidence

Like anything else, this may not be comfortable the first time and that's OK. It gets easier with time and enjoyable as you build your habit development muscles. It may help to start with small goals and tackle bigger ones over time. I've got to warn you that your self-confidence may go through the roof.

Do this enough times and you may look forward to developing new habits as a highly positive experience.

I'd love to hear the success created in your life.

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