Where Are You Focused ?

you look at your life, where are you focused? 

Do you find yourself focused on the past wondering what might have been if a different choice had been made? Do you find yourself focused on what you are able to do right now?

I believe for many of us, we find ourselves focusing on the past and the what-might-have-beens. What I believe is a better approach is to learn from what has happened and focus on what we can do now.

Too many times I find myself focusing on choices and decisions I have made and wonder "what if?" 

Unfortunately, all that does is create bad emotions and waste time for me. It creates bad emotions because I feel sorry for myself over the results of that choice. 

I wonder about the possibilities of "what might have been." I even have gone so far as to imagine in vivid detail what that experience might have been like had I made a different choice. 

None of that does me any good. The emotions do not serve me and I can make much better use of my time.

What I can do, is choose now based upon my current circumstances. I can evaluate my options based upon previous experiences. I can say to myself, "when I had a similar situation at this time, I made this choice and had this result. Was that the better choice?" Sometimes, the answer will be yes. 

Sometimes, the answer will be no. When the answer is no, I can evaluate my other options and determine a better possible outcome.

I know that I have had conversations with customers in the past that have not gone well. Hindsight being 20/20, I know now that when I have difficult conversations and someone is not happy in that moment, I have other options that will provide more agreeable solutions.

I have been in church services ushering and have had one or two persons that we very adamant about sitting in a certain place. I would prefer them to sit in a way that fills in the rows in a certain way. However, for the sake of keeping peace, I allow them to sit where they want and fill in around them the best way I can.

In pursuing My Purpose in life, I know that I am very funny as a human. 

By funny I mean I am an interesting individual with some very odd tendencies. 

I believe every other member of the human race behaves much the same way. 

These tendencies cause certain reactions amongst other people. I believe as a result, we all have the opportunity to make adjustments as we go along in life so that we can all create the Destinies we desire.

So, the question I leave you with is: are you focusing on the past and what might have been or are you learning from the past and moving forward with your current choices?

If you feel as though you need assistance leaning from the past and not focusing on it, contact us at http://www.AbundantLifeCoachingNow.com and let's discuss how we can be of assistance.

Your Purpose, Vision and Destiny Coach,

Andy